Tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are

Meaning: The company you keep reflects and shapes your own character.

Origin: A saying found across Europe, best known in Spanish as dime con quién andas y te diré quién eres — tell me who you walk with and I'll tell you who you are. In Don Quixote (Part II, 1615), Sancho Panza quotes it against himself: his master is clearly mad, he reasons, so what does that make the man who follows and serves him?

Equivalents in French, Spanish, Japanese, and German

  • French: Dis-moi qui tu fréquentes, je te dirai qui tu es (literally: Tell me who you associate with, I will tell you who you are)
  • Spanish: Dime con quién andas y te diré quién eres (literally: Tell me who you walk with and I'll tell you who you are)
  • Japanese: その人を知りたければ友人を見よ (Sono hito wo shiritakereba yūjin wo miyo) (literally: If you want to know a person, look at their friends)
  • German: Sage mir, mit wem du umgehst, und ich sage dir, wer du bist (literally: Tell me with whom you associate, and I'll tell you who you are)

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