ProverbHuman NatureGreek origin

Only the wearer knows where the shoe pinches

Meaning: Only the person experiencing a difficulty truly understands its depth.

Origin: Plutarch tells of a Roman who divorced his wife, to the astonishment of his friends, who asked what fault she had. He held out his shoe: it looked handsome and new, but none of them could tell where it pinched him. In Chaucer's The Merchant's Tale, a husband says the same thing in English: "I know best where my shoe wrings me."

Equivalents in Spanish, German, Portuguese, and Dutch

  • Spanish: Cada uno sabe dónde le aprieta el zapato (literally: Everyone knows where the shoe pinches them)
  • German: Jeder weiß am besten, wo ihn der Schuh drückt (literally: Everyone knows best where the shoe pinches him)
  • Portuguese: Cada qual sabe onde lhe aperta o sapato (literally: Each one knows where his shoe pinches)
  • Dutch: Ieder weet het best, waar hem de schoen wringt (literally: Everyone knows best where the shoe pinches him)

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